The holidays are a very busy time for so many of us. There
are family gatherings, events, shopping, many of which are based on tradition
or expectations. Sometimes with all of the running from one thing to the next
and the long to-do lists we lose sight of what we truly value or enjoy in the
holiday season.
So this holiday season I am going to challenge you to
reevaluate where you invest your time to determine what’s really valuable to
you. A good question to ask yourself is “does this fill me up?” or “does this
bring me joy?”. Sometimes we find ourselves doing things because they are
expected of us or this is the way we have always done it, but does it fill you
up? If not, stop doing it. If running to 3 different family gatherings in one
day to celebrate feels more like a race or a chore than a celebration then stop
doing it. Plan family gatherings that are spaced out over several weekends so
the pace is slower and you can actually have time to connect with those family members.
If getting up at 4am and cooking a 5 course meal is exhausting and does not
bring you joy, stop doing it. Consider picking up a turkey and sides from a
local grocery store or going out to eat.
What all of this comes down to is determining what you value
most about the holidays and finding ways to focus on that and eliminating barriers
that get in the way. If spending time with family is what you value but
spending the whole day cooking and doing dishes gets in the way of that, stop
cooking and doing dishes, find alternatives. Just because you have always done
it that way doesn’t mean you have to keep doing it that way. If gift buying and
giving creates a financial strain and takes away from the
occasion, stop doing it. Find alternatives such as making homemade gifts from
supplies you already have or decide to do an activity together as a family. I
know a family who gives verbal gifts. They gather around and instead of opening
gifts they share things they love about each other or ways that the people in
their lives have filled them up that year. Discard the traditions and
expectations that working for you anymore and make new ones!
Make the holidays about what fills you up. What brings you
joy?
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