One of the most effective ways to cultivate your emotional wellness is by showing yourself compassion. Self-compassion is important because we often judge ourselves far more harshly than we judge others. This can make us feel isolated, lower our feelings of self-worth, and ultimately can cause us to feel even more stressed. Self-compassion has 3 components: mindfulness, a feeling of common humanity, and self-kindness.
The group Greater Good in Action has created an activity backed by research called a “Self-Compassionate Letter.” Essentially, it asks you to write a letter to a part of yourself that makes you feel ashamed, insecure, or not good enough. Instead of the typical harsh judgement we use to talk to those parts of ourselves, this activity asks you to extend compassion, understanding, and acceptance to that part. Essentially, it’s a letter from yourself to you. You can find more information and the instructions for the activity on their website here. They recommend that we all do this practice at least once per month, writing new letters and re-reading older letters as issues with those parts of ourselves continue to come up.
How do you take care of yourself emotionally? What practices have you found that help you when you are struggling? Let us know in the comments or on our Facebook page!
Nicki Phillips is a counseling intern at Esprit and a graduate student at UW Oshkosh working towards a degree in clinical mental health counseling. She brings a fresh perspective to her work along with a vibrant personality. She believes everyone is inherently worthy of respect and compassion, and strives to create those qualities in her relationships with clients. She sees clients who are uninsured, underinsured, have a high deductible, or prefer to pay out-of-pocket for a reduced cost. She particularly enjoys working with adolescents and young adults, and has also worked with children (ages 5 and up) and adults. She has immediate openings for new clients! Please schedule online at espritcounseling.com. She can also be reached via email at firstname.lastname@example.org or by phone at (920) 383-1287.